lessons learned
So…tonight I’ve learned that you can get through just about any depressed or sad mood with a couple of beers and as many episodes of scrubs as time will allow. Of course, you have to be aware that 1) Anyone who reads your blog is in danger of contacting you in regards to the “couple of beers” reference and 2) that even though for the most part scrubs will lift you up, it also is in danger of making those slow, aching tears slip from your eyes upon references that may mean you. And the advice on scubs never ceases to be good…
“Relationships don’t work the way they do on television and in the movies: Will they, won’t they, and then they finally do and they’re happy forever — gimme a break. Nine out of ten of them end because they weren’t right for each other to begin with, and half the ones that get married get divorced, anyway. And I’m telling you right now, through all this stuff, I have not become a cynic, I haven’t. Yes, I do happen to believe that love is mainly about pushing chocolate-covered candies and, you know, in some cultures, a chicken. You can call me a sucker, I don’t care, ’cause I do…believe in it. Bottom line…is the couples that are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but, the big difference is, they don’t let it take ‘em down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time, if it’s right, and they’re real lucky. One of them will say something.”
Here’s to strength.
Cheers.
The thought that keeps coming to me as I read your blog entry is a quote from Richard Bach that was very popular when I was in college. Loosely quoted, it goes:
“If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, it was never yours to begin with.”
One of the hardest things in life is to know when to hold on and when to let go.
I agree with Mom. And the toughest thing is, even once you know deep in your heart whether or not you should hold fast or let go, the actual decision still hurts like a bitch. Yet, it can also come with a great sense of relief. Even though this doesn’t completely apply because of the religious reference, sometimes you simply have to “let go and let God,” no matter how scary and hurtful losing that sense of control can be.